It takes some time and some lessons to really understand accountability. It took me sometime and a lot of mistakes to understand it. My mom always told me I needed to be accountable for my own actions. And I ignored it.
It’s also hard to hold other people accountable especially your friends. Even though it seems like you’re judging or picking on someone by holding them accountable you’re not you’re actually helping them. Being a leader in my recovery home requires me to hold people accountable, and some people are closer than others but tend 2 mess up. Describe how close you are you still need to hold them accountable which I am.
It’s sad to see them leave or even distrust you because you tell on them for their mistakes or inability to follow rules. Something I’ve learned in my recovery is you have to be selfish. I always wanted to be everybody’s best friend, and I’m learning that I can’t. Is actually a good thing for me to be able to hold others accountable and not be afraid to speak up. It’s good for me and it’s good for them.
Today I had to tell on someone, actually tell my instructor, about someone’s Behavior even though they’re close to me and potentially it could get them kicked out but I know I had to do it to follow the rules and make the program work. It’s hard also to be held accountable especially if you don’t accept it. It’s like not being able to handle the truth.
I thought I should update my blog today and write about accountability so here it is. Have a wonderful day